Episode 42: The Biggest Threats To Your Confidence

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Hello love, It's Ellie Curry, and I'm thrilled to welcome you back to another episode of the Own Your Confidence Podcast! Today, we're delving deep into a topic that impacts us all – confidence. Specifically, we're unraveling the biggest threats to your confidence: self-judgment, self-sabotage, and low self-esteem.

Self-Judgment: The Mental Battle

Let's start with self-judgment, that sneaky inner critic we all contend with. Picture this: you're wrapping up something you have been wanting to do. The moment after, you have a choice. You can either pat yourself on the back, acknowledging your efforts, or you can succumb to self-judgment. For years, I struggled with this. Every action became a reason to criticize myself, a chance to tear myself down.

Understanding self-judgment requires awareness. What triggers it? How does it sound and look in your life? By dissecting these aspects, we gain power over this destructive force. It's about recognizing the patterns, the thoughts that lead to emotions, and eventually, actions. The key? Kindness. A supportive mindset that embraces our humanity, mistakes, and imperfections.

Self-Sabotage: Fear in Action

Next up, self-sabotage. It's fear's accomplice, a way to avoid confronting our deepest anxieties. When we don't trust ourselves to follow through, we set ourselves up to fail. Fear keeps us stagnant, within our comfort zones, preventing us from realizing our true potential.

Self-sabotage erodes self-trust. Each broken promise to ourselves reinforces the belief that we can't achieve what we desire. It becomes a cycle, a loop of negative reinforcement that cripples our confidence.

Low Self-Esteem: The Lens of Self-Hatred

Lastly, low self-esteem. It's the lens through which we view ourselves, often distorting reality. We collect evidence to validate our negative self-perception, creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.

But here's the solution – kindness. It's the antidote to these confidence threats. Kindness to ourselves breaks these patterns, replacing self-judgment with understanding, self-sabotage with self-trust, and low self-esteem with self-love.

In wrapping up, I want you to understand this: you are worth the effort. Embracing kindness towards yourself is not just a journey, but a transformative practice toward unshakeable confidence. Believe in yourself, even if it's just a glimmer. Borrow my belief in you until yours shines as brightly.

I hope it was a gentle reminder that you deserve kindness, especially from yourself. Until next time, practice speaking to yourself with love!

XO,

Ellie Curry